It's not what you think. Vas is still the same abrasive homosexual femme dyke y'all have come to know, but she is no longer a Lesbian. Confused? Well, I guess it has to do with the fact that words mean things.
I have no problem using most offensive words on the basis that they exist for the purpose of being used. I will call people nigger/spic/yid/dago/honky/redskin/bigot/a
sshole/piece of shit/fluffy bunny/et cetera(s), if they have behaved in a way that earned the title, if they belong to said group and think it's funny, or as a light self-denigrating jab. I will not use those words lightly or outside of the proper context. I do have a lot of unease about using groups of people to describe behaviors or states of being that may not be pertinent to who these people really are. For example:
"I would never jew you out." = "I would never shortchange you."
"What a gyp!" (Will piss my husband off on contact.) = "What a rip-off!"
"Let's go nigger-knocking." = "Let's knock on someone's door and runaway."
"You throw like a girl." = "Your pitch was very weak."
"That's so gay." (My husband says it too much.) = "That's pathetic."
"You don't look hispanic." = "You're pretty."
After much pondering, the word Lesbian pretty much falls under this troublesome category. I read this article about
the people of Lesbos suing a gay-rights group over the word, a while ago. At first I thought, it was a frivolous concern, yet as the days passed, the article just haunted me. I couldn't stop thinking about how horrible the people of Lesbos must feel about having their ethnic name being a label for a stereotype. I mean seriously. At least "sapphic" refers to a specific person who had a hankering for girl. "Gay" is a positive stereotypical label because it implies happiness, and in terms of being a sexual minority a predominantly heterosexual society, "queer" doesn't seem unreasonable. Even "dyke," which is frankly my favored slang term, is based on common behaviors seen among homosexual women. Getting that out of the way, I must note that not all homosexual women are from the island of Lesbos, and not all Lesbians are gay women. For this reason there's really no way to defend the word in the context of homosexuality, as anything other than a description for a state of being, pejoratively using a name used to describe a group of people of a certain ethnicity.
Now, I think everyone has the right to use any words they want. If you want to call yourself or others Lesbians, even if you aren't referring to people of Lesbos, go right ahead. It's freedom of speech. I am not the mind police, and it is not my job to judge. Just don't expect me to participate any further. I am not going to edit words and art I've done in the past to prevent offense. That would be intellectually dishonest. What I can do, is take what I learned and adjust my future behavior accordingly.